1. I have spent so many years working with people at their most vulnerable because I have been trying to learn how to survive being vulnerable myself. This hit me like a ton of bricks today. No, not even years of psychoanalysis three times a week during my psychotherapist training led me to an insight this deep and true. That's annoying, right? The thought crossed my mind while in the kitchen and I immediately dropped to the floor and started to cry. You know when you have all the really deep feels?! Yeah, one of those moments. One of my first jobs as an artist right out of school was at UCSF Mount Zion working for the brilliant and inspiring Cindy Perlis and Art for Recovery. While there, I created art at the bedside with AIDS and cancer patients, art with cancer patients during infusion treatments and art with outpatient groups in the Art for Recovery studio. It was an incredible experience, and as Cindy has always said, "It is a privilege to do this work." As a psychotherapist, I worked with adolescents and college aged teens in acute crisis. I trained at an adolescent psychiatric facility for a year and as difficult as it was, there I felt too, like it was "a privilege to do this work." Being with people at their most vulnerable is a deep experience. That's really all it is a lot of the time, just being, and listening, and bearing witness to their moments. Now as a yoga instructor I am back doing the same, listening to people in moments of vulnerability with their bodies. As I wrote a few weeks ago, in life we are given every opportunity to respond differently until we respond differently. So here I am revisiting this place. I love this kind of work, I do. I'm good at it and really bad at letting others into my vulnerabilities. So I am not sure what happens now that I have said it out loud. I think it is the beginning of responding differently.
2. The human brain does not reach full maturity until the mid to late 20's. Maybe. Some researchers are now estimating our decision making processes don't fully develop until our 30's or 40's. While this is not something I just learned today, I like to keep it in mind. Especially when on social media.
3. I love the quietly engaged. One thing I do enjoy about social media is that it allows us to be quietly engaged. We can follow along with someone's photos, story, family, and art, and never utter a comment, give a like, or share a post. I have heard from many of you that you are reading what I have learned each day and quietly writing your own #these3things. I just love that. And thanks. Thanks for reading and coming along on this adventure in your own quiet way.
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