I turned 40 earlier this year. I'm delighted to be 40. My 30's were hard. There was a lot of grief and many life lessons that it has taken until now to really metabolize and understand. For whatever reason, maybe it's the mountains or all the freaking yoga, but things are surfacing these days and I'm starting to put words to ideas that have been simmering for years.
With all that has been going on in the world, much like you, I've been feeling the chaos. Often it sweeps me away for the day, deep in thought, surprise, grief, and heartache. When I get to the end of the day I hope that amid the chaos, there is something to hold onto. Something that I have learned. Anything that encourages an appreciation of the present and moves me/us forward.
Last week when I finally sat down to write about all that had been bubbling up, here's what happened.
Three things I have learned in middle age...
1. There is never enough time. In the day, in the week, in the year, and with the ones we love. If you are waiting for the right time, grab the god damn bull by the horns and make it the right time. The right time is the morning you wake up full of breath able to live another day.
2. Everything will change. EVERYTHING. Your relationships, your mind, your wisdom, beauty, friendships, body, health, job, finances, home...you get it. Some changes are for the better, some are not, but life is more fun if you surrender to this fact.
3. You can ask for what you want in life but you don't get to decide the how and when. If you are waiting for a door to open, keep your eyes on the windows, the chimney, and the gutters. Life presents many possibilities when you are open to taking a different and unexpected perspective.
A simple status update on my personal Facebook page was flooded with comments, hopes that I continue to share what I have learned, laughed, and cried about. After some thought I decided, YES. There really never is enough time and maybe some of that short window we get should be spent reflecting on what we have managed to learn each and every day.
This is all just a longwinded invitation to you. Yes, you, to join me on this journey of recording 3 things you have learned everyday. Maybe it's remembering something we have learned in the past, a moment or a memory, or just knowing that ice cream pretty much always tastes good and that cleaning up dog puke will never be fun. I'll be here, posting THESE 3 THINGS each night and will also share a short version on my Instagram feed @zelmarose using the #these3things. Join me by using the #these3things and commenting below with your own These 3 Things. I want to hear what you are learning, laughing about, and living through.
Here's to a new adventure!